Sanskrit Pearl of the day:
लालनाद्बहवो दोषाः ताडनाद्बहवो गुणाः ।
तस्मात्पुत्रञ्च शिष्यञ्च ताडयेन्न तु लालयेत् ॥
- चाणक्य नीति
Transliteration:
lālanādbahavo doṣāḥ tāḍanādbahavo guṇāḥ ।
tasmātputrañca śiṣyañca tāḍayenna tu lālayet ॥
- cāṇakya nīti
Meaning of the subhAShita:
Indulgence has many deficiencies, (and) disciplining has many efficiencies. Hence, discipline children and students. Do not indulge them.
(Although 'tāḍana' literally means 'spanking', it can be taken as 'discipline'. The purpose of spanking in the earlier days was to discipline.)
Commentary:
Children do not have precise ideas of what is good and what is not. Many times, they do not have the vision to see tomorrow's repercussions due to today's choices. Sometimes, they just want to test the limits. These happen for obvious reasons—they are children, and they lack the experience and knowledge required to make their decisions. Most often, it is also seen that they do not have the firmness of mind to stick to their choice either. They suddenly want something else just because they changed their mind!
If parents or teachers indulge every single fancy request of the child, there will be no end to it. The child may also never learn the true value of the possessions he has. He will learn to take the things and people for granted. He will not be able to connect bad outcomes to the bad choices he made! His judgment will get clouded and he will be entrapped in a vicious cycle of failure as he grows up.
In this case, what good is achieved by entertaining the whims and fancies of the child?! There are more qualms than qualities in such an upbringing!
Instead, if the child is guided through his choices and the pros/cons of his actions, he will make better choices later in life. In doing so, sometimes, the adults may have to hold their stance and discipline the children firmly.
If parents or teachers indulge every single fancy request of the child, there will be no end to it. The child may also never learn the true value of the possessions he has. He will learn to take the things and people for granted. He will not be able to connect bad outcomes to the bad choices he made! His judgment will get clouded and he will be entrapped in a vicious cycle of failure as he grows up.
In this case, what good is achieved by entertaining the whims and fancies of the child?! There are more qualms than qualities in such an upbringing!
Instead, if the child is guided through his choices and the pros/cons of his actions, he will make better choices later in life. In doing so, sometimes, the adults may have to hold their stance and discipline the children firmly.
The children will still try to test their limits. It may be easier for the parents, at that moment, to yield and indulge the child. But then, in the long run, children learn to become persuasive until get their way. They will not learn discipline, which is very essential.
The problem is, if one doesn't discipline himself, the world will do it for him! Isn't it less painful to learn this at a younger age at home than going through hardships later in life?!
Teach children 'discipline' by disciplining them. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. Equip your children and students with this one essential skill!
lālanāt bahavaḥ doṣāḥ tāḍanāt bahavaḥ guṇāḥ ।
Teach children 'discipline' by disciplining them. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. Equip your children and students with this one essential skill!
pada vigrahaH:
लालनात् बहवः दोषाः ताडनात् बहवः गुणाः ।lālanāt bahavaḥ doṣāḥ tāḍanāt bahavaḥ guṇāḥ ।
तस्मात् पुत्रं च शिष्यं च ताडयेत् न तु लालयेत् ॥
tasmāt putraṃ ca śiṣyaṃ ca tāḍayet na tu lālayet ॥
laalanaadbahavo doShaaH taaDanaadbahavo guNaaH ।
tasmaatputra~ncha shiShya~ncha taaDayenna tu laalayet ॥
- chaaNakya nIti
laalanaat bahavaH doShaaH taaDanaat bahavaH guNaaH ।
tasmaat putraM cha shiShyaM cha taaDayet na tu laalayet ॥
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