June 3rd


Sanskrit Pearl of the day:
लालनात् बहवो दोषाः तडनात् बहवो गुणाः
तस्मात्पुत्रञ्च शिश्यञ्च ताडयेन्न तु लालयेत्
- चाणक्य नीति

Transliteration:
laalanaat bahavo doShaaH taDanaat bahavo guNaaH
tasmaatputra~ncha shishya~ncha taaDayenna tu laalayet
- chaaNakya nIti

Meaning of the subhAShita:
Indulgence has many deficiencies, disciplining has many efficiencies. Hence, discipline children and students, do not indulge them.

Commentary:
Children do not have an idea of what is good and what is not, in all arenas. Sometimes, they do not have the vision to see tomorrow's repercussions due to their today's choices. Sometimes, they just want to test the limits. These happen due to obvious reasons. One, they are children and two, they lack the experience and knowledge required to make their decisions. Many a times, it is also seen that they do not have the firmness of mind to stick to their choices either. They suddenly want something else, just because they changed their mind!

As an adult, if the parents or a teacher start indulging in every single fancy of the child, there is no end to it. At the same time, the child will never learn the true value for the possessions he has either. He will learn to take things as well as people around him for granted. He will not be able to connect the bad outcomes to the bad choices he began with! His judgement will get clouded and he will be entrapped in a viscous cycle of failure as he grows up.

In that case, what good is achieved by indulging in the whims and fancies of the child? There are more qualms than qualities in such an upbringing!

Instead, if he is guided through his choices and the pros & cons of his actions, he will make better choice later in life. In doing so, sometimes, the adults may have to hold their stance and discipline the children firmly. The children will still try to test their, as well as, the parents' limits. It may be easier, at that moment, to yield and indulge the children. Then, on a longer run, children learn to be persuasive in order to get their ways. But will not learn the very essential, discipline. Problem is, if one doesn't discipline himself, the world will do it for him! Isn't it less painful to learn it themselves as children and not go through hardships later in life?

(Although 'taaDana' literally means 'spanking', it can be taken as 'discipline', because, the purpose of spanking in the earlier days, was to discipline!)

Teach children discipline through discipline. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. Equip thy children and students with this one essential skill.

pada vigrahaH:
लालनात् बहवो दोषाः तडनात् बहवो गुणाः
laalanaat bahavo doShaaH taDanaat bahavo guNaaH

तस्मात् पुत्रं च शिश्यं च ताडयेत् न तु लालयेत्
tasmaat putraM cha shishyaM cha taaDayet na tu laalayet

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