December 17th


Sanskrit Pearl of the day:
लालयेत् पञ्चवर्षाणि दशवर्षाणि ताडयेत्
प्राप्‍ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रं मित्रवदाचरेत्
- चाणक्य नीति

Transliteration:
laalayet pa~nchavarShaaNi dashavarShaaNi taaDayet
praapte tu ShoDashe varShe putraM mitravadaacharet
- chaaNakya nIti

Meaning of the subhAShita:
Indulge a child for the first 5 years; discipline him for the next 10; when he attains the age of 16, treat him like a friend.

Commentary:
'Pampering' isn't the only way to shower children with affection.

When children are young, under the age of five, they are very innocent and divine. Indulging them and yielding to their desires and whims are acceptable at that age.

As they start growing up, they see the world around them and start exploring their limits. Yielding to all their desires, right or wrong, is only going to do harm to them. If they do not have a parent or an adult guiding them and helping them make the right choices, chances are, they will make the wrong ones. The children might find in uncalled for, but will realize the reasons behind the discipline as they mature into responsible adults, themselves. ('taaDayet ' literally means 'beat them'! But in the current world, it should be translated as - 'discipline'.) Discipline is essential, especially in setting moral grounds - telling lies, being hurtful to others, etc. are to be nipped off in the bud itself. When right morals are instilled in a child at a young age, the parents can be sure that they have carried out their duties effectively.

Once children attain sixteen years of age, they are almost becoming adults themselves. That is a right time to start treating them as friends and believe that - all the indulgences and disciplining in the past years, have taken shape in making a loving, caring and a responsible adult.

pada vigrahaH:
लालयेत् पञ्च वर्षाणि दश वर्षाणि ताडयेत्
laalayet pa~ncha varShaaNi dasha varShaaNi taaDayet

प्राप्‍ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रं मित्रवत् आचरेत्
praapte tu ShoDashe varShe putraM mitravat aacharet


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